Self-Boundaries and Standards

There is a saying: boundaries are like fences, standards like walls. Sometimes, people get these confused and sometimes, people have then with or for others but not themselves.

When was the last time you checked the boundaries you give YOURSELF? When was the last time you did a self-check on your standards?

For those who don't do so on a regular basis, now might be a good time to reflect on these things.

Below is a sample list to help get you started:

Self-Boundaries and Standards

·         God above all, self care second

·         Love neighbors (those God calls to my life) as self… not above or below

·         Stop, listen, and observe before making an ultimate decision

·         I will represent Christ well

·         Ever-improve

·         Allow time for rest

·         Ask for help or clarification where needed… don’t be stubborn

·         Prepare well

·         Say “yes” or “no” respectfully and without reservations (2 sides to the coin)

·         Don’t push yourself over the limit

·         Know your limits and respect them

·         Treat others with respect, always

·         Choose actively, not passively

·         Hear others out, but don’t allow excuses

·         Don’t live complaints or excuses

·         Neglect negativity

·         Embrace growth, truth, love, grace

·         Ask for what you REALLY want

·         Practice spiritual disciplines from the heart, not from any other place

·         Toss out unnecessary to-dos

·         Remove blocks, tolerations, and fears: self-coach on them first; if necessary, ask others for ideas

·         Compliment and acknowledge… sincerely just because

·         If it isn’t 100%, don’t buy it (relationally, materially, etc)

·         Do it well, do it once…

·         Step out of the lie

·         Put faith into action

·         Don’t be party to anyone’s philandering

·         Don’t get sucked into unnecessary drama